Is is a truly twisted tale of loss and betrayal in small town Portland Indiana I don t know if I could recommend it to others because it s so frustrating This family reacts to trauma by becoming paranoid and self isolating Even though identity theft was a new type of crime when the story started I hate how apathetic everyone seems to be the family relatives the police and friends Everyone except for the daughter who couldn t do anything except live in fear Of Whoever Was Doing whoever was doing to their family She does become an expert on identity theft in later life so some good came out of it Let me warn you before you open this book DON T GET SPOILED Multiple Goodreads reviews and even a coworker who listened to Betz Hamilton s episode of the podcast Criminal If you go in thinking this is a mystery you need to reframe mystery not as a whodunnit and of a whydunnit Axton s life was flipped over and over again due to identity theft that plagued her small family from the time she was born Even when she managed to get away from her tiny Indiana town and to college the identity theft followed her It wasn t ntil her mother s death that the truth of who her mother was and what She Did And Did did and did do came to light This was engrossing and saddening both for the author who experienced it as well as for her mother who was extremely mentally ill That doesn t come p in those words but readers will know and nderstand The fact of the matter is mom died before everything came to light and since she can t explain herself trying to nderstand the whys or hows isn t possible What s left are the pieces which lead to a whole other side of her life she d never been truthful about I COULDN T PUT THIS ONE couldn t put this one as it falls suarely in the bloodless crime genre I love It s a memoir too and the marriage works well here It would make for a great read alike to EDUCATED for the family story as well as to DUPED for the ways in which people you think you know can lead entirely different lives in ways that seem surprisingly seamless even when they re not SPOILERSThis book isn t about Identity Theft It s about mental illness and childhood emotional abuse Mental illness is only brought p near the end as an afterthought it s not DID it s like borderline personality disorder I don t really know what to say about this book except that it would make a very interesting magazine article or TV special but as a book it just didn t work for me Also we re we supposed to not realize it was the mom ntil that was revealed because it was pretty clear all along that it was. Ntined behind the closed curtains in her childhood home She began starving herself at a young age in an effort to blend in her appearance could be nothing short of perfect or she would be scolded by her mother who had become paranoid and consumed by how others perceived the familyYears later her parents' marriage still shaken from the theft Axton discovered that she too had fallen prey to the identity thief but by the time she realized she was already thousands of dollars in debt and her credit was ruine. ,
This is a book which put me into an entire day of self estioning Is it 4 star in message Is it 4 star in language skills Yes on both Was it a fun book to read in any sense of fun by definition Absolutely NOT
it s rather akin to being tasked withs rather akin to being tasked with for a medical condition Like sitting in one spot to track and describe an ill animal that cannot stop snapping or chasing its tail in endless circles Or like watching a corner or traffic crisscross by 3 or 4 intersections maze way where you know a traditional hourly accident occurs Sitting there to watch the aftermath of the next collusion Something Like That And Most like that And most that would rather intrigue With this particular 3 sided family and dance of intersect NOT so much Anyone who reads my reviews of record for years here knows how I feel about wire hanger parent stories I despise them Well then why am I not despising this one Axton clearly expresses her disdain and disaffection just as much More at times And her Father Sorry I can t deal with this so I think I ll go raise some donkeys and stay out to do the hay baling A pure example of total obscuring and escaping
to self blindWhat a dance this family did And don t kid yourself we ALL sufferself blindWhat a dance this family did And don t kid yourself we ALL suffer reversal from this Not as much as Axton Never that muchAny will give you spoilers I almost DNF about 12 way through Especially when Axton was The New Competition underminded in her pride of appearance and denigrated in commenting by her parents Hearing those getaway tales for schools etc got too too negative for me But I saw very early in this book that there was a dissociation occurring that was not being noted Most people who have little psychology background wouldn t be musing DSM 5 criteria So that s the only thing that kept me going Because I sure was And was I correct Not entirely but at least I recognized about 12 of the iceberg beyond the tipNot entirely correct in its depth But I knew that a grave mental illness existed And gave it the appropriate nomenclature Yet I certainly didn t get the duality achieved The last 3 chapters of the book were 4 plus stars That she made a career out of this Kudos to Axton Betz Hamilton Talk about making lemonade when all you own is lemonsWhen I was done I was very glad I read the book It s given me tons to ponder in afterward Like those Moms who appear on Say Yes to the Dress and then consistently dis their own daughter and especially her joy and tasteBeware this is NOT a fun read Knowing every single place Purdue especially that Axton lived also made me view the screenings she did within her ow. An identity theft expert tells the story of the duplicity and betrayal that inspired her career and nearly destroyed her familyAxton Betz Hamilton grewp in small town Indiana in the early '90s When she was 11 years old her parents both had their identities stolen Their credit ratings were ruined and they were constantly fighting over money This was before the age of the Internet when identity theft became commonplace so authorities and banks were clueless and reluctant to help Axton's parentsAxton's fa.